The True Purpose of Marriage
Marriage is much more than the union of two souls; it is the harmonious merging of two families. When two individuals vow to lead a grihastha (householder’s) life, they assume shared responsibilities and dream of a joyful journey. The purpose of married life is to nurture happiness, raise responsible children, and work together toward a common goal.
However, modern life, with its competitive work environment and the overpowering influence of social media, has created unrealistic comparisons. Social media often presents an illusion of perfection, leading us to question our own reality. Thoughts like, Why am I missing out? Am I the unlucky one? Everyone else seems so happy! cloud our minds, unaware that these portrayals are often far from the truth.
Teaching Children the Value of Cooperation
In parenting, it’s essential to teach children to cooperate rather than compete unnecessarily. Yet, many parents, caught in societal expectations, inadvertently push their children to always be first—whether it’s academics or extracurriculars. The mantra becomes Run! Run! Run! as if life were a constant race.
Instead, parents should encourage children to participate in team sports like cricket, football, or basketball, where they can learn the importance of collaboration and mutual respect. As the Kauai Hindu Monastery beautifully advises, the only competition in a family should be in acts of love:
- Who can give more love?
- Who can care better?
- Who can understand the other more deeply?
The Pain of Separation
In my extended family and close circles, I have witnessed separations in married life. These are not just challenging for the couple but deeply affect the entire family.
Consider the immense effort that goes into a marriage:
- The parents’ years of penance and prayers.
- Planning a grand celebration to unite two families.
- Gathering friends and relatives to bless the couple.
- Serving meals to hundreds over days, all as a mark of love and joy.
And then, when a separation occurs, all that effort and dedication seem undone. While I may not be well-versed in the legalities of divorce, I do wonder: Could understanding and communication bridge the gaps?
Building Love and Understanding in Children
The responsibility of raising emotionally strong and mindful children lies with parents. It’s vital to guide them toward positivity by introducing them to scriptures and stories with meaningful lessons. These narratives plant seeds of love, understanding, and tolerance in young minds, nurturing a more compassionate future.
Let’s not leave our children’s future in the hands of mindless social media. Instead, let us offer them the gift of a real, meaningful life filled with human connection, wisdom, and mindfulness.
Takeaways
- Foster Love and Understanding in Families: Encourage cooperation and acts of kindness within the family. Compete only in giving love and care.
- Raise Mindful Children: Focus on teaching life lessons through meaningful activities and scriptures, steering them away from the isolating effects of excessive social media.
